Tim and Cammie are 20 somethings. They are on the streets. Cammie has a job at a taco fast food place. Not sure about Tim. They’ve been together for a few months. They stayed with a tent city of homeless for a while where I stayed one night. In the one night that I was near them, they bickered. He talked about another girl. He had let this other girl have Cammie’s phone number and she had texted him on Cammie’s phone. Cammie and Tim came back to the tent site, where at least five of us were asleep before they came back. It was around 2 am. They were the youngest there. In spite of the fact that so many of us were asleep, they argued. She was not happy that he gave this other woman the phone number. In the morning, I saw that she had a very swollen lip. She slept during the day, their area of the site was littered with debris. Racoons came and riffled through their belongings before they had come back. Later that day, Tim was the runner for beer and cigarettes. It was around 11 am. I never saw Tim working. Both of them were at the breakfast in the mornings the few times that I was there. They bickered then.
When I returned to that town, I talked to a couple of guys who have been there for a few months. The campsite was pretty much vacant. They told me that the local police had come and cleared everyone out except them: everyone else was disturbing the peace. Tim and Cammie were among those who had to leave the site. The two guys found out that they are planning on getting married. They talked about how the two of them constantly fought and that Cammie’s lip had finally healed. The swollen lip had come because Tim had head butted her when they fought that week. They are getting married. Homeless. They physically fight. There is so much in the Bible that tells us how we are to be as a couple. Fighting. Physical abuse. These are not demonstrations of love. Is it any wonder relationships don’t last? Or women go on the street? Or domestic violence is a common call that police have to make? Jesus teaches us to love our neighbor. Paul preached “Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it; that he might sanctify and cleanse it with the washing of water by the word, that he might present it to himself a glorious church, not having spot, or wrinkle, or any such thing; but that it should be holy and without blemish. So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies. He that loveth his wife loveth himself. For no man ever yet hated his own flesh; but nourisheth and cherisheth it, even as the Lord the church: for we are members of his body, of his flesh, and of his bones. For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother and shall be joined unto his wife, and they two shall be one flesh. This is a great mystery: but I speak concerning Christ and the church. Nevertheless let every one of you in particular so love his wife even as himself and the wife see that she reverence her husband.” (Ephesians 5:25-33, KJV).
Like it or not, women were created from men. That’s Creation. It’s in the Bible. The Bible is truth,not just a good storybook or full of theories. Women are not to be punching bags, nor are men supposed to chase after other women. A relationship is supposed to be blessed by God. Those aren’t just words, it’s in the Bible. A love hate relationship is going to fail. It’s not created by God, it’s created by this world and all that is bad in it. Being homeless is only an adjective for these two. A bad marriage is a worse problem than being homeless.